5 Tips for first time moms with newborns

5 Tips for first time moms with newborns

Woohooo! You made it! Congrats new mom or not so new mom. You’re probably reading this because you are looking for answers on how to make your life easier after having a baby or you’re looking for tips for new moms. Well, you’re in the right place. Here are my 5 Tips for first time moms with newborns and how to make your life easier.

For me, I knew for sure that my life would change forever after having a baby! Like, my time for myself, my beauty sleep “No more sleep at all,” running errands, and going on a date night and more. But, there were still things that I didn’t know until after I had my baby.

These things that I didn’t know about has affected my baby and my life for awhile. I had to learn it myself because no one had told me about these things. Well, at least now I know, and when we have a second baby, it will be an easy breezy.

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5 Tips for first time moms with newborns

I am writing and sharing these 5 Tips for first-time moms with newborns because I want you to have a more comfortable life with a newborn or even when they are older already! This article will set you up for the future to have an easier life with your new baby.

The consequences of not knowing what I know now:

  1. My two-day-old baby had a UTI and dehydration
  2. “NO” Sleep for 21 months
  3. Baby not sleeping through the night
  4. I abandoned my blog site
  5. Lost motivation to be healthy or do anything

You might be saying this to yourself right now, WHAT THE HECK! JUST TELL ME, WOMAN!  What are these tips that I should know that you’re talking about? Haha.

Fine, here it is.

#1 After giving birth, feed your newborn with organic formula and not just your breastmilk  

I know moms who are health freaks will be like, “Oh no! I only like to feed with my breastmilk.”

No woman, trust me you have to. I was the same way as you, but I learned my lesson. The reason why is that you will not have any breastmilk for a couple of days postpartum.

They say  “Oh no, it’s ok, you can just keep on breastfeeding until your milk comes out because babies can survive for a couple of days with just the colostrum” Let me tell you right now! That’s BULLCRAP! I followed that advice and guessed what happened; my son had a UTI because he got dehydrated. Gosh! These moms make it looks like its so easy and when I did it, I failed.

MY ADVICE:

I know breastmilk is the best milk you can ever give your child and this is why I only breastfeed at first because I don’t like feeding my son with formulas that I don’t know what planet they come from. But, you have to give your son formula in between breastfeeding to prevent dehydration and other health problems.

If you are like me, paranoid about using formulas, then get organic milk and bring it with you to the hospital, so you don’t have to use their baby formula.

Here’s one more advice I read that’s why I didn’t give my son formula when he was born. Here’s what they will tell you ” Your baby will have nipple confusion if you breastfeed and give a bottle at the same time.”

Let me tell you again, THAT’S ANOTHER BULLCRAP! Because of these things that is why my son had a UTI and dehydration. Once your baby knows how to latch on your nipple, that is it! It’s like a muscle memory they will know how to suck your nipple no matter what and even after you give them the bottle.

TIP FOR FIRST TIME MOM:

Train your newborn with feeding on your breast and bottle while they are still a newborn baby because it will be hard for you in the future to stop breastfeeding. Especially if you are a working mom and you have to go back to work after a couple of months.

TRUST ME! I experienced it. It was so hard to give my son bottles at four months, and all he wanted was my breast, and he cried so much. I had to go back to work at four months, and I had to leave him with the babysitter who was also struggling with feeding my son a bottle. It was an experience that for sure will not happen the second time around.

SO PLEASE! TRAIN YOUR BABY NOW WHILE HE/SHE IS STILL A NEW BABY. You will not regret it, and you will have an easier life with using a bottle too. Just pump your milk and freeze them and or buy organic formula. It is also easier to feed with bottles when you are running errands with your baby.

Here are the formulas that we love to use because they are the closest to breastmilk and they are the best ones in the US.  I also recommend Holle and Hipp baby formula, but they are harder to get if you live in the US because the milk is from Europe.

FOR INFANTS:

Earth’s Best Organic Infant Powder Formula 

Plum Organics Infant Formula

FOR TODDLERS:

Baby’s Only Organic  Toddler Formula

Happy Tot Organic Toddler Milk

#2 Train your baby to sleep by themselves even though they are just a newborn

Gosh! I am still suffering from no sleep until now, and he is 21 months old. My son sleeps on his own in the crib, but he still wakes up in the middle of the night just to feed. Raise your hand if your child is the same way! Or am I the only one who has these problems? haha

MY ADVICE:

Train your newborn to sleep right away because it is harder to train them to sleep when they are a little older. When your baby got used to sleeping next to you, it creates a habit and habits are hard to break! My son slept with me, and every time he wakes up, I feed him my milk until he falls back to sleep again.

Now, I just created a problem there. My son was so used to sleeping with me and wakes up and ask for my breast to feed. Only if I had known better, then I would’ve done it differently. Now, he sleeps in the crib, but he still wakes up in the middle of the night asking for bottle milk and goes back to bed.

We are training him now to sleep without a bottle and teaching him to soothe himself when he wakes up in the middle of the night without drinking milk to sleep.

TIP FOR FIRST TIME MOM:

After your baby is born, you will surely feel tired and have lack of sleep, and you wouldn’t want to get up to go to the next room to put your baby back to sleep right? So, why not get a bassinet and place it next to your bed and so when he/she wakes up you can just feed him and put him back down.

Only feed for 10-15 minutes and leave him back down in the bassinet until he falls back asleep on his own or you can also help soothe him to sleep until he is a little bigger. This way, even at a newborn stage, they are not getting spoiled and they will learn to start soothing themselves right away.

At 4-6 months, you can start whining them down with drinking milk in the middle of the night and have them cry it out, and if you are not into that, you can go in the room and assure them that you are there with them and tap them back to sleep.

Here are our top bassinets that we recommend:

HALO Bassinest Glide Sleeper, Mosaic – What we love about this bassinet is that you can adjust the height, and you can put it closer next to your bed because of how the legs are.

Fisher-Price Soothing Motion Bassinet – What we love about this bassinet is the calming sway motion generated by you or baby. It helps them go back to sleep. 

Lulyboo Bassinet To Go Metro – We love this one too for traveling, on the go, and easy to pack and carry.

#3 Raise your child how you want them to be when they get older. “Live with a purpose.”

My goal in life is to see my children succeed in life and with respect, love, patience, and with the attitude of gratitude, and appreciation for every little thing they have. I want them to grow up with fear of the Lord and raise them how God would want us to be. And so, here is.

MY ADVICE:

Always live with a purpose in life. Start disciplining your child at a young age. Especially at age 1-5, that’s when they create new habits and attitude. So be careful of what you do and say in front of them because you are their model and they will copy everything you say and do.

When you program your child’s mind the right way at a young age, they will never go the other way. Remember, their childhood will have a significant impact on their life. Don’t raise a child where they have to reprogram their mind again when they are already an adult.

TIP FOR FIRST TIME MOM:

Disciplining your child is hard especially if they don’t listen to you. There are other ways to teach your child instead of yelling, screaming, and spanking them.

#1  When your child is misbehaving and throwing a tantrum, go down in their eye level hold their two hands and look at them in the eyes so they will understand you. Make sure you get their attention before you say anything.

Yelling at them will only make things worst because they will not listen and understand the things you are saying. This will just create a bad habit, and they will do the same to you when they are older because in their mind, oh my parents yell all the time, so it’s ok.” NO! it’s not ok!

#2 Spanking and hitting your child is also a no, no especially in my house. Spanking/hitting will only create a bad attitude.

#3 Start reading to them at a young age. Your child will love books forever, and you’ll raise a smart kid.

#4 No phones, tablets, or TV when you are all eating in the table but instead talk to each other and ask how’s everyone’s day was. This will create excellent communication skills, and you’ll form a family bond.

#5 When your child is a little older and knows how to talk and understand, make it a habit of asking them three things that they are grateful for. This will create a positive and appreciative child. And, make it a habit as a family to pray and read a bible verses every night before going to bed.

I am so excited to see my kids grow up well and be successful in life. Does this inspire you to raise your child the right way?

#4 Take advantage of the time when they are asleep 

Your productivity after having your newborn will decrease dramatically. I’m telling you that right now. In the first couple of months, it’s ok to sleep when they are also sleeping to catch up on your sleep and have more energy. But, don’t get used to doing it for so long and you end up being lazy to get back on your old routine.

Here’s my post about “How To Have More Energy In The Morning – 4 Simple Ways That Works.”

MY ADVICE:

When they are asleep, do not sleep but instead, do the things you need to do in the house. Whether it could be cleaning, laundry, working out or cooking. And, if you do blog or work from home, make sure you focus on one thing you want to accomplish that day because you will not be able to finish everything.

TIP FOR FIRST TIME MOM:

Daycare is expensive. Not every family can afford to send their child to daycare so that you can have time doing the things you need to do. Instead, ask a family member to help you take care of your newborn, or you can offer to pay them and set up the days you want them to help.

If you don’t have family that can help out, why not ask your friends and family if they know anyone that does babysit for a living. When we were in California, my husband’s aunt found us this lady who takes care of four kids at her house for a living. We pay $400 something a month, and she’s license to do it at her home.

I’m a working mom, and my husband works in the morning too and having Sandy “The Babysitter” made everything easier for us. On my days off, I sometimes drop of Zane to her while I do work on my blog or run errands.

Now, that we moved to a new state, we asked our friends if they know someone who does babysit for a living and guess what? God is with us this whole time because our friend’s sister does it for a living and we pay $30/day.

We didn’t choose daycare because our son is too little for it and they usually don’t have a private room for the baby to sleep. And this is why we prefer the private babysitter. Also, with a private babysitter, it’s fewer kids, and that means fewer viruses and sickness passing around.

#5 Clean at night and prepare everything you need for the next day

As a new mom and a parent, you tend to rush all the time because you know that time is crucial especially when you are running errands with your baby.

MY ADVICE AND TIP FOR FIRST TIME MOM:

Clean and prepare all the things you need the night before so you can have a smooth day the next day. Prepare the food, diaper bag, and clothes for tomorrow.

I created an article about “Worth Weeks” Diaper Bag Organization. This post is a must read, and it will save you so much time. Check it out and start applying it, so you don’t have to keep preparing your baby’s diaper bag everytime you go out.

A SCRIPTURE JUST FOR YOU:

“Don’t worry about anything, but in everything, through prayer and petition with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds in Christ Jesus.” 

Philippians 4:6-7

LASTLY:

I hope you enjoyed these 5 Tips for first time moms with newborns article. Having a baby shouldn’t feel like a burden, or it shouldn’t feel like as if you don’t have a life anymore after having a baby. Having a baby should be fun, and it should change your perspective on life.

Anywho, now it’s your turn to say something. Leave me a comment below and tell me what you think about these tip for new moms with newborns and which one of these tips that you’re for sure going to apply in your life?

“Let them learn at school whatever they learn to pass the examinations, but at home let the education that you provide be the kind that widens their perceptions and takes away the germs of prejudices that infect them while they are out in the world.” 

― Abhijit Naskar

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28 Comments

  • The tip I really like is teaching your baby to sleep in his/her own crib. Sometimes it is necessary to have them in the bed with you, but for us that was the exception and not the rule. Thanks for all the great tips!

  • Great advice. And you know, every day is new. The next child is not he same as the prior. So get comfortable being uncomfortable {but you’ll love every day}.

  • Such a great post. I especially love tip s 3 and 5. I’m about to give birth and my daughter is only 14 months so they’ll be close in Agen I feel that organisation will be key for me so preparing everything the night before is a great tip.

  • WOw! Really good tips and advice. I had my daughter 5 years ago and it’s pretty much a blurr. This is really good info for when baby # 2 comes.

  • It’s always interesting to read other mothers experiences, as they differ so much. I’m a mom of two and I know how hard it is managing life when the babies are infants. There are no rules when it comes to motherhood. I learned that from having a second baby. The things I thought was “right” was terribly wrong with my second. Every child is unique and so are the challenges you meet as a mother. Love reading your blog and thank you for sharing your story.

  • We have wildly differing opinions on the first two points here. Some further research should especially be done, before anyone takes this advice, regarding virgin gut and the introduction of formula and how even ONE bottle destroys flora within the first 24hrs of introduction. It permanently changes the microbial make up.
    I get the advice is based on personal experience and do understand you are writing with best interests in mind but this hinders milk production, messes with a nursing relationship, can cause nipple confusion, mastitis, engorgement and has lasting impacts for baby as well. I’m so sorry to hear about your baby’s issues and production issues that were possibly at play here but we’ve been nursing children since the dawn of time and further breastfeeding support and education could have prevented that (like if a tongue/lip tie was at fault, or if latch wasn’t proper or was too weak)- not just formula.

    As far as the rest of it goes after point 3, I agree entirely lol

    • Thank you for your honest comment. Yes I agree with you about introducing formula and this is why I recommended the formulas that are closest to breastmilk and I recommended what best here in the US. I guess I wasn’t as clear. I understand your point. What I meant is that after delivery if the mother still has no milk offer a little bit of formula but that doesn’t mean to just give formula. You can have them feed more on you and give a little formula just for them not to get dehydrated. Until now at 21 months I still breastfeed haha. I guess my son wasn’t lucky as other babies because he had UTI and dehydration at 2 days old. My milk didn’t come in until the 3rd day of nursing. I believe in nursing and breastmilk trust me. I’m a health freak mom. But when my son had dehydration, I fed him formula using a syringe because I was afraid that he will have nipple confusion. When my production became regular which took 3-4 days, I stopped the formula until 4 months old when I had to go back to work then that’s when I start giving him a bottle but I had a hard time giving him a bottle because he was so used to my nipple. I guess this post targeted mostly working moms. I was gonna put that at the beginning and your comment helps me realize that I have to be more specific. I never had a problem with breastfeeding and I never had mastitis or any related problems with breastfeeding.Thank you:)

      • I see your point a bit more clearly, although it was construed very differently in your original wording, which I notice you’ve since edited.
        Often times ties and latch issues aren’t diagnosed. Talking to someone from La Leche League is a great tip for first time mothers. There is also the option of donor milk.
        I say it not because I want to cause a disagreement, or be a santimommy lol, but because I actually ended up losing my milk due to listening to the advice regarding supplementation. At the time, I didn’t know about other options and didn’t know there were ways to up milk production, even early on. Like Mothers Milk Tea, Blessed Thistle and Fenugreek. I wish someone had told me those things and, just to try and help prevent anyone else from going through what I did, I figured I would add an additional point of view.

        Cry it out is also exceptionally detrimental to children, making them less intelligent, less connected to their parents and causing anxiety later in life. Here are some great studies for that too;
        https://www.laleche.org.uk/letting-babies-cry-facts-behind-studies/ (the aforementioned La Leche League)
        https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/moral-landscapes/201112/dangers-crying-it-out (Darcia Navarah, PhD)
        https://www.bellybelly.com.au/baby-sleep/cry-it-out/ (6 Highly Qualified Individuals breaking down some very compelling information).
        To be clear- I was a CIO baby. I think I’m fairly intelligent. However, perhaps not at my full potential as a result, I could never know.
        Every parent does things differently, for sure… but with the general feel of your blog, and publishing content advising new parents, I felt compelled to bring the info to light in the hopes of adding some great information to the arsenal of another “health freak” Mama. 🙂

        • Thank you! I will for sure read them. It’s nice to have some insight from other mamas out there that’s how we learn;)

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